The Slippery Slope of Self-Esteem

Self-Esteem is a person’s overall sense of self-worth or personal value1. But think about when you know someone has low self-esteem. What are you likely to start doing? “Oh, Karen, you look AMAZING in that dress” or “Jeff, I can always count on you to fix the things I break.” We lay on the compliments. If only they could see what we see, they’d have a perfectly healthy self-esteem, or so we think. Unfortunately, that’s not how it works.

In order for self-esteem to be healthy, we have to believe it for ourselves. Trouble is, we often go looking elsewhere for it, which only perpetuates the problem. We may try to fit in, look all put together, and just generally be accepted. But even when we are, we find ourselves suffering from Imposter Syndrome and feeling like a fraud. This is the price of looking outside of ourselves for a positive self-esteem.

So, what’s the solution? We have to dig deep and recognize our own worth. It’s an “inside job.” This means we have to get better at fostering a healthy relationship with ourselves. This starts by accepting who you are right now. Not who you’re trying to be, but who you actually are today – flaws and all.

The benefits to having a healthy self-esteem are many. When we recognize our own self-worth, failures don’t knock us down. Sure, they don’t feel very good, but they don’t impact our sense of worth and value. They don’t change who we are. When we don’t rely on approval and validation by others, we can take risks, be open, and accept ourselves and others. We are also more forgiving and resilient.

You may be wondering exactly what to do to improve your self-esteem. I can tell you that there is no quick fix for this. Improving your self-esteem and building a better relationship with yourself takes work and on-going practice. But, I also have a great way for you to get started. I will be launching an online course next week. This free 14-day course will give you tools and techniques to get better acquainted with your awesomeness. The course will help you combat the challenges that get in the way of a healthy self-esteem, like quieting your inner critic, toxic relationships, dealing with criticism, your everyday habits, and more. You’ll get video and audio recordings, motivational quotes, downloadable PDF’s for reflection and journaling, daily micro-goal setting, and mantras for each day’s theme. Each day will have a maximum of 30-minutes of content because, well, you’re busy.

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1 – Cherry, K. (2016, August 31). How Do Psychologists Define Self-Esteem? Retrieved July 01, 2017, from


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  1. “When we don’t rely on approval and validation by others, we can take risks, be open, and accept ourselves and others. We are also more forgiving and resilient.” – Love it! We often rely on others for our self-worth, but eventually it is “be yourself” that makes us standout from the crowd. It also helps to speak up and not afraid to voice our opinions. Thanks for such an insightful post April!

    • Erin, I love that you added the importance of speaking up and voicing our opinions. This is such a wonderful way to celebrate and embrace our ideas and opinions. 🙂

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