Love You or Love You Not?

This can be a crappy time of month for those who are single or in an unhappy relationship.  Pink and Red hearts and cupids are EVERYWHERE.  Flowers, candy, cards and jewelry are advertised as the ultimate social proof of being loved.  Stupid.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m a chick after all and certainly love me some flowers, candy, cards or jewelry! My aggravation comes from the insinuation that you are validated on this day ONLY if someone gifts you with an “I love you” gift.

For those who are single or in unhappy (or un-gifting) relationships, this can be rather depressing.  IF they buy into this that is.

Ultimately, it doesn’t matter how much you are loved by another human being if you don’t love yourself.  There are too many people who need this validation from someone else in order to believe that they are worthy of love.

How about proving your worthy of love by loving yourself?  Need some help?  Here are 7 ways to give yourself a little love this Valentine’s Day:

  1. Write a Valentine’s card or letter to yourself.  And don’t be lame.  Write about all those great qualities you possess, nice things you do, good intentions you have.
  2. Buy yourself a bunch of your favorite flowers and put them in a place you’ll enjoy them frequently.
  3. Take yourself out to dinner.  You can do this alone or make it a ‘Friends Date’.  Make sure you get your fancy on – dress to impress! (impress yourself of course!)
  4. Wear some sexy and daring underthings beneath your everyday attire (or for that matter, wear nothing underneath) to remind yourself that you got it goin’ on!
  5. Get yourself a treat like a box of chocolates, bottle of wine, 12 pack of beer or the fixin’s for a Cosmo, then enjoy slowly and lovingly.
  6. Go check out some jewelry stores and buy yourself that piece you really love.  Maybe it’s a ring, or pendant, watch or cuff links.  Go ahead and spend a little extra, you’re worth it, remember?
  7. Hit the spa and get a manicure, pedicure or massage.

Word of caution:  These acts are not intended to replace or stand-in for someone else.  Do these for no other reason than to show yourself some love.  Really put your heart into it.

Doing kind and loving things for yourself will remind you how awesome you really are.  Giving someone else the task of determining your worth and value is a really bad idea.

If someone happens to gift you with something this V-Day, BONUS!  But get excited about how you’re going to gift you!  Won’t you be your valentine? Post in the comments section ONE thing about you that is worth celebrating!!

Let It Go and Forgive

We’ve all been screwed over.  Just when you think you know someone… they lied, cheated or done ya wrong!  I’ve been there.  It tore me up.  Every time.  “Never again!”, I said.  “No one will ever get that close to me again!!”

I’ll admit it, I felt hatred (or something akin to it!) and I HATE hating!  But there were a few moments where I’m pretty sure I fed the “Hate Monster” a crumb or two.  I fantasized that this evil wrong-doer would be exposed to the world, break down and cry in front of this planet-sized jury and admit and apologize for all their transgressions against me.

And then what? I don’t know, I didn’t think beyond that.  I just replayed this scenario over and over again.  Wallowing in my victim status. Questioning my judgment.  Vowing to never be vulnerable and open with another human being.  And then what?  I don’t friggin know, I said!!

And then it made sense.  Hating really DOES only hurt the hater.  Think about it.  Haven’t you hurt people in your life?  I know I have.  Not because I wanted to hurt them.  It was just an unfortunate result.  In retrospect, I could have handled it differently, but at the time, I did what I thought I had to do.

What are you holding onto this year?  Who hurt you?  Are you allowing them to “drive your bus?”  Is the hurt they caused, navigating how you live your life?  Please, kindly take back control of your travels.

I bet they did something awful.  I bet they were inconsiderate and hurtful and selfish.  All of that is on them.  You don’t need to live in that space.  It isn’t serving you to live there.  Let. It. Go.  Forgive them for being a stupid human.  (We’ve all worn that badge a time or two!)

You should forgive them NOT to do them any favors, but to release them from your current life.  Maybe you’ll allow them in again one day, but not right now.  You may love them, but know they are not contributing to your path right now.

Release the baggage of hating them and reliving your victimhood.  Put those bags down, release that balloon of resentment.  Let it all go.  It’s not your “Now”; it’s your “Then”.

Surround yourself with positive energy and release all negative energy.  It’s a new year and you don’t want to waste a single moment on someone else’s shortcomings and wrong-doings.  You’ve got your own to worry about.

Forgiving and releasing is better than hating and hanging on.  Standing still in time will not change a thing.  Progress forward…leave them behind.

Share in the comments section how forgiving someone helped YOU!

3 Easy Steps to Writing Your Personal Mission Statement

I was always a “go with the flow” kinda gal.  An Eternal Optimist.  In my youth, I was so open to whatever was coming, that I didn’t seize opportunities.  I stumbled upon them.  Or rather, they stumbled upon me.

This is a great way to live…when you’re 20, but not as effective beyond this.  At some point, we need some direction.  A plan.  A goal.  Something to live up to and become.  So this year, how about, instead of “going with the flow” of life, you create a mission and purpose for the year?  Nothing too specific.  A “theme” if you will.  C’mon…I’ll help you!

The key to making a great mission statement is to keep it short and to the point.  You should be able to memorize it pretty quickly.  It will provide just enough information to help you determine when you’re on or off track.

  1. What are you committed to?  I am committed to…
  2. How do you achieve this? By…
  3. Why do you do this? So that…

That’s IT??? Yup, that’s it!!

Here are some examples of what some might look like:

I am committed to living more healthfully this year by eating and preparing more natural foods and increasing physical activities.  I will do this so that I set a good example for my children and feel better.”

I am committed to improving the quality of time spent with my family by having more family meals together, day trips and more focused attention when communicating with them.  I do this so that my family knows I love them above all else and strengthens the bonds we have with each other.”

I am committed to investing in my own personal needs by meditating every day, reading more often and planning alone time.  I do this so I am able to be more fully present in the other areas of my life and feel less stress.”

You can expand on these if you wish, but make sure you can remember your statement.  It should be broad enough to allow for many opportunities that contribute to your mission.

Post it in places where you’ll see it regularly.  Share it with friends and family.  WARNING: Do not get upset or angry when you make choices that conflict with your statement.  It’s not about perfection, it’s about the big picture.  If you are aiming to eat more healthfully, and you do this most of the time, don’t feel bad when you opt for that special treat.  It’s a marathon, not a race!

You can create statements for any area of your life: romantic, professional, parenting, spiritual.  It can also be a fun exercise to create a “couple’s” statement or a “family” statement.

Here’s mine for 2014:

“I am committed to stretching my comfort zone this year by taking more risks and meeting new people.  I will do this so that I accomplish more successes and learn more about myself and others.”

If you’d like to share yours or offer any tips you have, click above in the “comments” section just below the title.  As always, thanks for being here!! <3

 

5 Tips to Achieving your 2014 Resolutions

Happy New Year!! Ahhh, the New Year.  Time to answer the age-old dreaded question…”What’s your New Year’s Resolution?”  The Couch Potato says, “I’d like to lose 28 pounds and run a 5K…in March.”  Uummm, hmmm, ok.  The Jaded One says, “I don’t believe in resolutions.  It’s just another day.”  Oh, well, ok.  Then there are the Greater Middle.  We want to lose weight, get fit, save money, enjoy life, etc. etc. etc.

Déjà vu?  Didn’t we all say that LAST YEAR?  Worry not!  This year CAN be different.  Here are my five tips to achieving this year’s resolution.

#5 – Accountability Buddy – We need some skin in the game!  If you just think about what you want to change and improve, there’s no risk in failing.  No one else will know, right?  C’mon, I don’t know about you, but I can rationalize just about anything that disrupts my comfort.  Find someone who will hold you accountable and see through the BS you’re dishin!

#4 – Clear Measurements – Those wishy-washy, half-assed, conveniently vague resolutions are lame.  “I just want to be healthier” or “I just want to love more” are weak UNLESS you have clear and concrete measurements.  You must answer the HOW then answer it again and again and again.  How do you want to be healthier?  Lose weight. How are you going to go about doing that?  Working out at the gym. How often will you go to the gym? 4 times a week. How are you going to measure your progress? BMI and weight loss. See where this is going?

#3 – Make it Fun – If you didn’t work out for 9 of the 12 months last year, what on earth is going to make that different this year?  It’s got to be fun.  If you hate vegetables, that’s not the route to take to lose weight.  If you love Designer purses, vowing to give them up isn’t going to save you money (because you’ll buy them anyway).  Like jumping on a trampoline?  That’s a great workout…get one.  Wanna save money? Brown bag your lunch and make your own damn coffee for eight or twelve weeks, then reward yourself with the Coach bag you would have bought anyway!

#2 – Several Small Steps – Resolutions have become a pass/fail test.  So if you committed to working out 4 days a week, then skip one, or two, you have now FAILED!  Game Over!  Maybe next year.  Where are the cheese and crackers? Stop this!  Make a list of several small steps you can take every day that contribute to your ultimate goal.  If your fuzzy, wishy-washy goal was to be healthier, make a list of actions that contribute to this.  Eat a healthy breakfast, walk for 20 minutes every day, eat a salad as one of your meals, etc.  This way, if you skip some, you’ve got others that you’ve accomplished, so you don’t feel like a total failure.

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Ultimately, if you are in the great minority and can follow the first 4, you can make this happen for yourself.  But if you suspect that you will rationalize yourself right out of it, (raise your hand if you’ve been there!) then check out #1 and enroll in my program!  No matter what, I wish you NOTHING BUT SUCCESS in 2014!!

Share below your resolutions and the steps you’re going to take to achieve them!

7 Tips to Avoid Family Drama this Holiday Season

Winter, and the holidays that come with it, often result in joining family and friends in confined areas.  with alcohol…and grudges.  This is perfect if you’re a producer on the Jerry Springer Show.  Less so if you’re not.  Nothing brings out passive-aggressive behavior like a good party in the winter.

Here are my 7 Tips to Avoid the Holiday-Drama-day!!

  1. Don’t TAKE the Bait – Those digs and comments are MEANT to get you going.  Let them roll over you like a cool breeze on a hot day!!
  2. Don’t DROP the Bait – Those digs and comments are better saved for a more appropriate time.  You know damn well that you will resolve nothing today, so save it for a private conversation that doesn’t drag everyone else into it.  You know you’re right (at least partially), take that high road.
  3. Set the Example for the Young Ones Present – You are teaching them how to behave in this world.  Whether they are 3 or 23.  Show them the appropriate way to behave with class and dignity.
  4. Easy on the Alcohol – This liquid truth serum doesn’t always support high-roading.
  5. Remember What’s Important – Is getting that barbed-wire comeback in worth ruining a holiday?  Probably not.
  6. Is This How You’d Like the Story to End? – If you or the person you’re spatting with was run over by a reindeer after the gathering, what are the last words you’d like said?
  7. Arrange for Back-up – Ask your partner or a trusted family member or friend to help support your planned “high road” travel.  Ask them to get you to the nearest “rest stop” should you appear to be diverting from the plan.

I know a lot of this is easier said than done, but traveling the high road gives you a great view of those who travel on lower ground.  This means you’ll have some great stuff to talk about AFTER the party!!

Let it roll and just Love this holiday season.  Plus, won’t it be cool to show how “above all that” you are this year?

If you MUST share juicy family drama, please feel free to comment below. 🙂

When ‘It’s All About Me’ Isn’t a Bad Thing

It’s tough being you, isn’t it?  Think for a moment of all the people who rely on you:  Partners, kids, parents, siblings, bosses, co-workers, customers, clients, friends, family and neighbors.  Did I miss anyone?  Are you sure?? I didn’t miss ANYONE???  What about YOU? Do you rely on yourself?  Of course you do!  But how often do you take action on something that serves only you?

Would you run a marathon without preparing your body for it with proper nutrition and exercise? Of course not, yet, isn’t this what you do in life?  You serve all these people, subsisting on caffeine, skipped meals (or fast food if you’re lucky), and minimal sleep.

The word “Selfish” has really been dragged through the mud.  Its connotation is always negative.  Yet, what are you advised to do in an emergency landing of an airplane?  That’s right…place your oxygen mask on BEFORE assisting others.  Nobody is holding up the “Selfish” sign then; they’re too busy getting oxygen!

Giving is important.  Helping others is crucial to feeling contributory.  But you can’t run this marathon of good will if you aren’t taking care of yourself.  This means doing things that directly support you and your well-being.   There are some rules though:

  1. Schedule It – You have to make it part of your day. Every day. Some days it may only be 15 minutes, but do not skip it.
  2. Give Yourself Permission – You can’t waiver on this.  We all have those ‘bottom feeders’ in our Pond of Life, who will take and take and take.  You have to stand up for yourself despite the complaints of these scavengers.
  3. Communicate – Those around you need to know when “You Time” is.  This way they know you are not to be interrupted, barring an absolute emergency.  If that 30 minute bubble bath is your time, make sure your housemates know to keep out.
  4. Don’t Justify – Finally, don’t feel like you need to justify this time to every person in your life.  Sharing this information should be on a “need to know” basis.  A simple, “I’m sorry, I’m not available then…” will suffice.

Energy is like a muscle.  In Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz’s book, “The Power of Full Engagement”, they liken energy, and the need to recharge, to physical muscles.  Overuse of a muscle without allowing enough time for recovery results in soreness, swelling and potential injury.  The same is true with the energy you expend serving others.  Without recharging, you are risking your own health and well-being.

So whether your selfish recharging is 30 minutes of reading, a night out with friends, cooking with the family or a 3 day weekend alone in a cabin, just own it.  C’mon…all those people are relying on you to be your BEST you…they deserve your best, but more importantly, YOU deserve your best. Comment below how you like to recharge and spend your You Time.

Who’s in Your Circle of Influence?

“You are judged by the company you keep.”  I recall hearing that old adage frequently when I was growing up.  And while there’s certainly truth to it, I think it is also true that you are influenced by the company you keep.

In fact, one study, headed by Rose McDermott of Brown University, found that participants of the research were 75% more likely to become divorced if a friend was divorced and 33% more likely to end their marriage if a friend of a friend was divorced. (Read the full article here: http://fowler.ucsd.edu/social_network_effects_on_divorce.pdf)

Numerous other research has continually supported this “contagion” theory in other behaviors as well, like obesity, sexual behavior, and pregnancy, just to name a few.

Considering these findings, might there be benefits to this influence as well?  What would happen if we surrounded ourselves with people who had attributes we wanted to cultivate for ourselves? For example, I have selected those in my innermost circle very carefully.  These are people I admire.  Often, these people have strengths in areas I’m trying to improve in myself.

We all have aspects of our personalities that can dim our greatness. By surrounding myself with people who embody the greatness I’m in search of, I am putting myself in the ‘contagion space’.  I observe them, I’ll ask questions, and then I’ll try to emulate those characteristics in a way that fits with who I am and who I’m striving to be.

There are also great public figures that can serve this purpose for you.  Who do you admire? Check out their websites, books, videos and podcasts.

Take a moment to write down 3 aspects of your personality you’d like to improve on.  Really write them down (we talked about this last week, remember?)  Now who do you know, or know of, that could help you improve in this area?

It’s never too late to become the person you were meant to be!   Who do you admire?  What have you learned from this person? Tell me in the comments section below.

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Tell Me How You Earned that Victim Badge (Said No One Ever)

You got screwed again, huh?  Ripped off? Robbed? Wronged? Overlooked? What the freak? Why do these things always happen to you? You haven’t done anything to cause them.  What else could go wrong?

We all wrap this Victim Snuggie around us from time to time, with a big ol’ carton of ice cream and a Lifetime movie on.  That’s alright…occasionally!!  It’s when we choose to wear the Victim Badge that will have people sprinting as if at a Bull Run.  The definition of insanity is doing the same things over and over and expecting a different outcome.  Coincidentally, that’s also the prerequisite for wearing the Victim Badge.

I always cringe when I hear, “What else could go wrong?”  I mean, if I were the Universe, I would see that as a challenge too!  There are true victims out there, people who are wronged through no fault or contribution of their own.  Then there are the rest of us.

In every interaction and exchange you have with others, you are contributing something.  If the “same stuff” keeps happening over and over again, you need to look at the common denominator…that’s you my friend.  Of course you can look at the world as if there are villains out there whose job it is to mess things up for you; or you can see what adjustments you can make to start changing the outcomes.

For instance, you cook, you clean, you taxi, you organize, etc. etc.  You may find yourself frequently complaining, “nobody appreciates all that I do around here”.   That may be true, but remove that badge and TELL them all that you do and HOW you want them to show appreciation.  If it’s become too overwhelming for you, divvy up the duties.  However, if you enjoy doing these things, but would appreciate some “thank you’s”, than say so.

Another example might be that you don’t feel like anyone listens to you.  Ask yourself how you could be contributing to that.  Record yourself having a conversation.  Then listen back.  What are you saying? Are you being negative or whiny? Are you using “I”, “me”, and “my” throughout?

Do you find yourself in the same types of relationships?  Do you pick partners that ultimately disappoint you?  Time to look within.  Find the similarities between these relationships (how they began, what attracted you to them, how they began to decline, how they ended) and start looking at what you could do differently.

I understand that wearing that Victim Badge likely makes a person feel highly significant.  The more struggles they’ve faced, the more times they’ve survived after being wronged is supposed to show how brave and strong they are, right?  Not so much.

The Badge Wearing Victims tend to provide an accounting of every bad thing that has happened to them.  This is often communicated through the alternate use of sarcasm and bewilderment.  They don’t typically share how they overcame issues and got out of their own way (likely because they haven’t).

So take off that Victim Badge and replace it with a Badge of Victory.  Life wasn’t meant to just be survived, it was meant to be conquered!! Then ask the Universe, “What else could go right today?”  I’m betting the universe will see that as a challenge as well!

I’d love your comments below!!

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Cheating – It’s Not That Complicated

“It’s Complicated” is a relationship status these days.  Sure, there are some “complicated” aspects to any relationship, but cheating isn’t one of them.  Cheaters cheat because they have a need that is not being met.  It’s that simple.

There are 3 main types of cheaters: Insatiable’s who have more needs than any one person could meet; Incompatible’s who are in a relationship with someone with drastically different personal or religious views (in relation to sex/intimacy) or a different sexual orientation; and finally the Average Jo(e)’s who are roughly 90% of cheaters.

My one tip for those who love an Insatiable or an Incompatible: Run, don’t walk, in the opposite direction.  Your energy would be better spent finding a cure for cancer or eradicating world hunger.

As for those who love the Average Jo(e) and would like to prevent them from straying, these tips are for you.

  1. Don’t get lazy! – We all put forth great effort in the beginning of a relationship.  We are charming and attentive, passionate and affectionate.  Over time, these behaviors can wane.  When they do, over long periods of time, danger is approaching.  Flame Tip: Step it up. You know your lover’s hot buttons…press it at least once a week.  Tell her she looks gorgeous and you don’t know how you got so lucky.  Tell him you’ve been thinking about how good he looks under you.  Whatever works
  2. Don’t disregard their complaints – When we hear, “You never ________ anymore” we get our panties in a bunch.  Stop focusing on the “never” and start focusing on the _______!  Your loved one is trying to communicate a need they have that is not being met.  If you try to rationalize away or disregard their complaint they will just get the need met elsewhere.  Flame Tip:  When you’re on the receiving end of a complaint, no matter how poorly delivered, consider it, then prove them wrong by telling them they’re right and then acting on it.
  3.  Focus on their needs, not yours – Just because you think they should be happy because you cook, clean, work, fix stuff, doesn’t necessarily make this the need they wish to be fulfilled.  For example, it’s great that you mowed the lawn, but if you’re lady NEEDS words of affirmation, this chore is not going to meet it.  If your man NEEDS to be touched, your 5-course meal isn’t likely to meet that need. Flame Tip: What does your partner truly NEED from you?  Is it words, touch, time, gifts, gestures of love? Figure it out, then NIKE (Just Do It)! Check out the Five Languages of Love for further info on this topic.
  4. Add elements of surprise – If you think obligatory, missionary “gettin’ it on” is sexy, think again!  Change it up, add something new or different.  The higher the level of trust in a relationship, the more opportunities for “New and Exciting” exist.   Flame Tip:  What’s an element to your intimacy that you could add to?  Role play, naughty dice, adult store visit are all  options.
  5. Know your role – Business and society sometimes cause us to play chameleons.  This could result in men turning down their masculine and women turning down their feminine.   We all have a tendency (regardless of sex) to prefer the masculine or feminine energy.  Make sure you are catering to your partner’s preference.  Flame Tip:  Polarity (opposites) is sexy.  Determine which energy charges up your partner, then turn it up in a positive way.

If you are an Average Jo(e) and find yourself dissatisfied enough to consider other options, here are my tips for you:

  1.  Communicate – Be as direct as possible in letting your partner know how you’re feeling and what they could do to keep you from straying.  Flame Tip:  Communicate the things that they’ve done in the past that you loved.  Do this by reminding them of a great memory you have of the two of you earlier in your relationship.  Let them know how great that was and how you miss those days and would like to find a way to keep them in your relationship.
  2. Shiz or get off the pot – If you have no desire or interest in rekindling the passion in your relationship, then end it.  You’re not doing anyone favors (kids, your partner, yourself) by sticking around in a relationship you have no intention of nurturing or repairing.

Cheating is a sensitive subject.  I get it.  But if you’d like to prevent it (whether you would be the betrayed or betrayer) it’s going to take work.

Make sure you’re needs are being met (and you’re communicating if they aren’t) and make sure you’re meeting your partners (reasonable) needs.

It’s simple but not easy.  Please share your thoughts on this, I’d love to know what you’re thinking!  Remember, you can respond anonymously by entering your name as “Anonymous”.  Your email is not posted.  Comment below.

Communication – 7 Tips to Proving You’ve Evolved

So many bad things happen simply because of miscommunication or lack of communication.  You know when you’re watching a movie and the characters are clearly not sharing all the necessary information with each other and you’re sitting there like, “Tell him!” or “Don’t let her walk away!”?  There are ways to avoid these situations.  Despite the tendency of some, there is no need to revert back to the days when we all had a hairy back! Here are my Top 7 Communication Tips for the Evolved!

1 – There’s no such thing as common sense – This is evidenced by the infinite number of ways to swipe your credit/debit card in a store.  I always feel like a “winner” when I correctly swipe the card without direction from the clerk.  We all have different experiences and personalities, so our “common” differs from others’ “common”.  We also tend to surround ourselves with like-minded people, so when we are outside this group, like in a business or public setting, it can be difficult to communicate effectively.

 2 – Don’t start in the middle – Just think of some of the most classic films and what would happen if they started in the middle: Snow White would just be a creepy dwarfophile; George from “It’s a Wonderful Life” would just be a crotchety, bitter man undeserving of his wife and children; While Sandy & Danny (Grease), and Edward & Bella (Twilight) would just be your everyday conflicted teens, yawn.  So while it may seem obvious to you, don’t start communicating by assuming others know the “back story”.

 3 – Don’t make people work for it – If you have a message, be direct and to the point.  No one wants to be in a conversation that resembles the game of ‘Clue’. Dropping hints, being coy, beating around the bush, these all sabotage a good discussion.  Unless you’re handing out a secret decoder ring, just spell it out.

 4 – Be clear on the purpose of your communication – If you’re trying to help someone, say so.  If you’re upset and want to voice your feelings, say so.  If you’re ticked off, say so.  Don’t leave the person wondering what the point to the conversation is.  Confusion is not a recommended tactic if you’re trying to be understood.

 5 – Make sure your body language and tone support your words – If you’re trying to convey patience, open-mindedness, forgiveness or any other image, watch your non-verbal behavior.  Saying you’re open to hearing their viewpoint, then rolling your eyes as they share, shows them you’re full of crapola!

 6 – Listen – Stephen R. Covey said it best, “Seek first to understand, then to be understood.”  This means you are not going to plan a defensive comeback each time your partner (not opponent) raises a point.  Listen for the sake of understanding, not strategizing.

 7 – Sometimes writing is the best method – If you want to choose your words carefully, are worried that heated statements could come into play, or that the recipient (or you) could get defensive, then write a letter.  Make sure each thought and feeling you’re trying to convey is expressed exactly how you’d like it to be.  Write, edit, re-edit, send.  This also allows the recipient to absorb and digest what you’re saying and respond in kind.

Communication is the key to peaceful relationships, friendships, and world relations.  Leave the monkey brain where it belongs…with the monkeys!

Share your comments below, I LOVE to hear your feedback (anonymous or otherwise) and I ALWAYS respond!