The #1 Thing You Must Do to Manage Your Time

One of the leading personal challenges people face is time management. A recent survey I did put this in the top 5 list. We manage our time based on what’s important to us. We are all given the same 24 hours in a day – It’s the one fair disbursement in life. It doesn’t matter how much money you have or don’t have, no one can buy or steal even one more hour in the day.  So why then, do some people seem able to accomplish everything on their to-do list, and others can’t hardly get anything done?

Hopefully you read last week’s post on motivation. If so, you’ll recall that we are motivated by our emotions. One in particular, fear of pain, is an example. We will go to great lengths to avoid pain, but don’t seem as motivated to achieve joy. Such is the human experience. This is an important tidbit when it comes to time management though. We show up to work because of the pain we’d experience if we didn’t. Dirty looks from co-workers, a stern talking-to from the boss, job loss and loss of income are just a few of the “pains” we are trying to avoid.

All told, however, we can be motivated by things that bring us joy.  Take the latest episode of Dancing with the Stars. That was one of the most widely watched TV programs. Those viewers were likely not watching because they were trying to avoid pain. They were likely watching to gain some pleasure.

There is a common thread in both examples – showing up to work and watching a TV show. For most of us, both of those things happen at certain times. If you have to be to work at 8am, you get to work at 8am. If your show starts at 8pm, you show up to watch the show at 8pm.  If someone tries to stop you from either endeavor, say a chatty neighbor, you will probably say (or just think), “I’m going to be late!” and do your best to move them along.

Assuming you already know what it is you want to spend your time on, there is one crucial thing you MUST do to better manage your time – schedule what’s important to you. That’s it. Doing that one thing will make you more productive and more in control of managing your time. I’ll use myself as an example here. In addition to a full-time job, I have my coaching practice, and I’m attending school to complete my degree. With all of these responsibilities I have not had the time to exercise. I have repeatedly told myself (and anyone that would listen) that I just don’t have time for it. As the pounds started to add up, I said as soon as I was done in July, I could get back to a healthy routine. I just didn’t have one moment to spare. And I didn’t…until the “pain” became unbearable. I didn’t like the number on the scale, how I looked or how I felt. Guess who found some time to plan meals for healthier eating and to take time each day for some exercise? Yup, that would be me.

I knew I had to make this a priority in my life, so I began scheduling time to prepare meals one day each week. Seriously, I blocked out a chunk of time each Sunday that was non-negotiable. I began walking at the same times each day to get some physical exercise into my day, and I began tracking my food consumption at every meal. Having these scheduled activities are the only reason I’ve seen success. Authors who are writing books schedule time each day to write; Runners schedule time to run. And the list goes on. Don’t rely on the chance that you’ll have time left over at the end of your day – you likely won’t. And even if you do, are you even going to feel like doing what you need to do then? Probably not.

Now tell me, what one task will you benefit from scheduling into your day? Share in the comments.

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5 Tips for Achieving Your Goals

Some recent market research I did uncovered an interesting challenge: about 30% of respondents say they have a hard time sticking to their goals. There are several reasons this can happen, and this week I’m going to share some tips to help you focus and stay on track with your goals. So, if you have quit on a goal and know you still ultimately want to accomplish it, read on.

  • Goals Need Space to Expand – In a recent vlog post, Natalie MacNeil of SheTakesOnTheWorld.com says, “Goals need space to expand.” That is such a true statement. Goals don’t always seem so big when they exist in our minds alone, but once we commit to them, they can take on a life all their own. Make sure you are generous in how much time you commit to your goal. Take for example a goal to go to the gym every day for 1 hour. At first thought, it’s easy to think how doable it is to carve an hour out of our day, yet there’s more to that goal. There’s the time needed to travel to the gym, change into workout clothes, get to our machine, turn our music on, and then any post-gym routine. All of those steps are necessary and take additional time. When we don’t set aside enough time for our goals, we may get frustrated and end up quitting them altogether.
  • Quitting Goals Isn’t Always Bad – Sometimes we have multiple goals that end up conflicting with each other. When that’s the case, narrowing down active goals is a good idea. For example, I am currently finishing up my degree. I spend hours every day working on assignments. I have a goal to complete my degree by July. I also had a goal to get back in shape. However, with the required time I need to put into my studies, and my daily commute to and from work, something had to give. For me, it was the gym. I don’t recommend this, per se, but it was the one that had to be put on the back burner for me, until July. I had to narrow my focus to one main goal.
  • Plan For the I-Don’t-Feel-Like-It Moments – There are going to be moments, plenty of them in fact, when you just don’t feel like doing what you need to for your goal. Maybe your goal has been to save an extra $100 per week by not eating out. Then, as often happens, you have a late day at the office, traffic was terrible, you’ve got a headache, and you just don’t feel like making dinner tonight. Skipping this once isn’t that big of a deal, you’ll just do better next week. Hold up! You know things are going to crop up that make your goal steps HARD. Plan ahead for those – before they happen. Your willpower and discipline muscle is going to be virtually non-existent after a long day at work, traffic, and a headache. Have a Plan B ready. Maybe it isn’t ideal, but a frozen skillet dinner cooks in about 10 minutes and costs a whole lot less than dinner out. If you have one waiting in the freezer for you, you will be less likely to go off the rails.
  • Be S.M.A.R.T – This has probably been said a billion times, but it’s worth repeating. Bad goals usually don’t have good outcomes. Goals need to be very SPECIFIC. “Meet new people” is too vague. “Attend one networking event per week” is much better. Goals must be MEASURABLE. You know if you attended one event each week. Goals must be ATTAINABLE & REALISTIC. If they are too far out of your reach you will quit them. Lastly, goals must be TIMELY. This means you have to give yourself deadlines and milestones. You must be able to see a finish line.
  • Make it Emotional – The decisions we make are mostly driven by our emotions. Therefore, our goals need to be emotionally driven, not just logically based. We have to have a reason that we care about to achieve our goals. We must connect with the emotions we experience at the idea of successfully achieving the goal AND the emotions we would experience if we didn’t. These will be our biggest motivators.

There you have it! 5 Tips to help you stay on track with your goals. Assess how well your goals follow these and adjust as necessary.

Your turn. Tell me in the comments section which of these 5 tips have been most challenging for you.

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Greatest Hits – Year One

I have to admit that I enjoy Facebook’s “On This Day” posts reminding me of past memories. Yesterday was 4 years since I told the masses that I started this blog. It was a big, scary step for me (in fact, it took me a full month to shout it out), but I took it. 4 years later and I haven’t missed a weekly post since! It is in that spirit that I will be sharing some favorite past posts from Year One. In the very early ones, I had just a handful of subscribers. My writing has evolved some since then, as have my chosen topics, but my message is still the same. Embrace YOU, be kind, and keep creating the version of you that will bring you the most joy. It’s all about living a life by design. I’ve summarized my top 5. You can click the titles to read the entire post. I hope you enjoy these early year flashbacks!


I’m Rubber You’re Glue…For Grown-ups

My very first official post was posted here on February 10th, 2013. Here, I share the challenges I faced working with a supervisor who lacked integrity, honesty, and kindness. It was the feeling of powerlessness I felt at the time, followed by the eventual realization that I still had aspects of life that were in my control. It was that realization that ultimately led to the creation of my private practice and this blog. It’s a pretty raw post, but the main message still applies today. I’m much better at not allowing negative thoughts about others to crowd my personal mind space and this post is a great reminder of this.

 

 


The Limitations of “Labels”

Published on March 31st, 2013, this is a topic I’ve written about several times. I just have a “thing” about labels. This is about not allowing them to define you and how they can sometimes be used against us by others, but also by ourselves when we use them as a crutch or excuse. We’ve all received and applied labels to ourselves. See if you are doing this to your advantage.

 

 

 


Tell Me How You Earned that Victim Badge (Said No One Ever)

This gem was published on October 20th, 2013 and is also a repeat visitor. One of my favorite words and feelings is Empowerment. The perspective offered in this one is from personal experience (I have certainly worn the Victim Badge on occasion). I also know how much better it feels to empower myself and take control of the aspects of life I actually do have control over. There is a bit of tough love in this one, but ultimately empowering. If you are feeling down in the dumps and as if life just keeps throwing you lemons, this is a good read.

 

 

 


Who’s in Your Circle of Influence?

November 10th, 2013 is when I posted this popular topic. An expansion on the old adage, you are the company you keep. I shared how there are some down-sides to this phenomena, but even more so, the benefits if your circle of influence is chosen carefully. There’s a short, fun exercise included that I know you would find beneficial. Think about your closest influencers, then check to see if you are setting yourself up to succeed and achieve.

 

 

 


Living Your Dream, One Step at a Time

This was my post to celebrate the year mark of blogging and entrepreneur-ing (yes, I still make up words). It’s one I’ve had to revisit multiple times since posting it on February 23rd, 2014. It was a reminder that all accomplishments begin with one step. Every success, every dream can only happen when you take that step. It’s a short post, but it reiterates a point I’ve made again and again over the years. It’s also the one I need most when I’m in a rut. Whether you have a business, want a business, or would really just love a summer home, this applies to you, too!

 

 


There you have it – My Top 5 in Year One. I hope you enjoyed these early posts and commented if you felt inspired! Stay tuned for a brand new topic next week!

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The 4 Stages of Change and How to Get Through Them

The one constant in life is that nothing is constant (except for taxes, maybe). We deal with change every single day. Some days the change is minor, like a short-lived traffic jam, other days it’s something major, like the end of a relationship. There are all sorts of in-between’s, but ultimately how we deal with change impacts how we get through the tough times.

When any aspect of our life changes or is altered, it slows us down. Voluntary change usually slows us down less than involuntary change, but this isn’t always the case. Until we accept and embrace our new normal, we progress very slowly.  Learning how to navigate through the stages of change will help us get to a happier, more fulfilled place in life.

The four stages of change are Denial, Resistance, Exploration, and Commitment. Let’s look at each one.

Denial – This is head-in-the-sand, this can’t be happening to me, denial.  For minor things, like a short detour, the effect is fleeting. There’s a moment of, “you’ve got to be kidding me” before moving onto the next stage. For more major changes, like losing a job, this may last longer. Thoughts swirl around how “everything seemed fine yesterday.” We will do anything to avoid the pain of accepting the change. This is a pain-filled stage and the sooner we can get out of here (and admit that change has happened), the sooner we can start working on some solutions to improve the situation.

Resistance – Okay, fine, I get it, change has happened. This is a place often filled with anger. If change is the parade, you are the rain! Blame, blame and more blame. That anger needs to be directed somewhere. While this is a tough stage to be in (for you and those around you) it’s also a necessary, self-preservation stage. At some point, you will hit your lowest point here. Resistance may have more to do with resisting how uncomfortable this change feels. It may appear that anger is directed towards the change, but that’s not always the case – it may just be anger at the loss of what was. Other common emotions during this stage include self-doubt and fear. You are experiencing noticeable growing pains. Making note of all the choices you could make, and the pros and cons of each one, can help you get to the next stage.

Exploration – While still a pretty uncomfortable place to be, the clouds are beginning to part. Hope is peeking in and anger is fading out. In this stage you dip a toe in and take a sip of the Kool-Aid. There’s possibility here. Small at first, but growing as you continue through it. You are becoming more open-minded and starting to think of ways to live with the change. The future is again in sight.  Growing pains continue, but you recognize the value they could provide down the road. This is a good place to start consciously thinking of the possible benefits of the change. What is better? What could be better?

Commitment – Ah, you have arrived! That doesn’t mean the moment you step into this stage you are celebrating, only that you have committed to move forward.  Residual pain may exist, but innovation and creativity show up to conjure up ways to move ahead. There is some semblance of control and our speed is back up to par. Growth has occurred and is recognized here. You can see that you aren’t the same person as you were when this all started. You see you’re kind of awesome in this stage. Your confidence is returning and you can see things from a new perspective. You may see how you could have prevented or better handled the change. Growth has occurred and you’re quite possibly better for it.

Change is HARD! In fact, the stages of change are very similar to the stages of grief. Knowing how you react to change in general can be helpful. Don’t be fooled – you don’t gracefully move from one stage to the next. The door doesn’t lock. You may enter one stage, only to take several steps back into the previous stage. If you know you need to spend more time going through the stages than others, embrace it. Be patient with yourself, but don’t live in any one stage for too long. This includes Commitment. Remember, “A comfort zone is a beautiful place, but nothing ever grows there.”  Understanding these changes can help you help yourself and others who are experiencing an uncomfortable change in their life.

Think of a change you are experiencing now, or one you’ve experienced recently. Note what stage you are in and start thinking of ways to move onto the next.

Share in the comments section which stage you tend to get “stuck” in (it’s the Exploration stage for me).

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12 Quotes to Make You Feel Better About Screwing Up

I have made so many mistakes in life. Usually, I recognize them as soon as I make them. It just always seems a moment too late. It is in these moments that I wish life had autocorrect. However, there are two reasons that this is a bad idea.

One: I have learned more from these than I have from all my successes. In fact, when it comes my successes, I often look around like, “how did that happen?” “How can I do it again??”

Two: Have you SEEN all the autocorrect memes?? I can screw up perfectly well on my own, thank you very much! Autocorrect is likely to only make things worse!

Here’s my point: mistakes suck, but they are necessary. Like teeth cleanings. We don’t like them, but we need them. Below are 12 quotes that are certain to make you feel better about your mistakes or forgive others. For those of you familiar with my Wednesday Words of Wisdom (Hello, VIP Subscribers!!!), this is that times 12!!. Enjoy!

There you have it. 12 quotes to help you be a little kinder and more forgiving of mistakes. One quote to keep in mind, is “Once is a mistake; Twice is a decision.” Beware of those who continue to make the same mistakes over and over again – they aren’t learning the lesson (yet).

What say you? Do you have a favorite quote? Share in the comment section. We all can use reminders and inspiration in life – help us out!

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Written by, You

It’s easy to feel that sometimes we are at the mercy of life’s circumstances. And let’s be honest, some moments we are. But moments are fleeting, and it’s important to keep in mind that you are the author of your life. While life may throw circumstances your way, you get to determine how each chapter ends. You get the last word. If your business goes under, if you get fired, go broke, or get dumped, that’s not where the chapter has to end. You write the last line. You also write the opening paragraph of the next chapter.

When you write your story, it’s not all going to be pretty rainbows and butterflies, because that’s not real life. There will be ugly parts, parts of you and your story that you are not proud of, but that’s okay. The lines in our story, even the chapters of our story, do not make us who we are. They are a part of us, but they are not all of us. If you don’t like how your story is unfolding, write a new one. Change the plot, the setting, the characters, and even yourself if you wish. You get to choose how you react to life’s curve balls.

Life is complicated; we are complicated. That’s the beauty of it. But underneath all of those complications is a really pure version of who we are. This version is always doing the best it can. This version grows and changes, and we, the authors, get to determine how to navigate through the lessons learned, the plot twists, and the overarching desire to matter.

Don’t write your story through the eyes of others. Share their perspective, consider others’ ideas, but it’s YOUR story. You define the meanings; you determine when you’ve succeeded and when you’ve failed. You decide who you are and where you’re going to take your story. When someone criticizes you or tells you that you’re not enough, that’s their story. Don’t make their story your story.

When you embrace your title as author of your story, you empower yourself. You take back control of the parts you have control over. You determine if your story is a tragedy, comedy, drama, mystery or some exciting mixture of all of these. Your non-fiction tale is yours for the telling. It’s your gift in life. There is no editing, there are no re-writes. There is one story. Write it well. Live it well.

Share in the comments section one of your favorite “lines” in your story.

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11 Tips to Making 2017 Great

Happy New Year! Whether resolutions are your thing or not, you have to have goals if you want to live a life by design. And who DOESN’T want to live a life by design? Being towed along by others is no way to live. You have ideas, opinions, desires and wishes. Let them be heard and achieved this year.

Whether big or small, there are some keys to success that you’ll want to use. These work if your target is to make a lifestyle change, like living a cleaner life, or if this is a one-and-done goal like saving up $5000 for something special. Follow ALL 11 and success will be yours!

  1. Know What You Want – Call it a resolution, goal or target, but be clear about what it is. SUPER clear. You want specifics, like numbers and other measurables to periodically check if you’re on track.
  2. Know Why You Want It – It’s important to know why you want what you want. There should be an emotional connection with your goal. Why would you be happy if you achieved it? Why would you be disappointed if you didn’t? This is what you will refer to when you just don’t “feel like it” one day.
  3. Give Yourself a Deadline – Parkinson’s Law says that work will expand to fill the time given to complete it. Put a date on it. Be realistic, but don’t just say “by the end of 2017.”
  4. Break Up a Big Goal – Big goals are great, but can get overwhelming. Break them up into smaller chunks. It’s great to want to start a successful business, but there are many steps along the way. Create mini goals that will get you to the bigger one.
  5. Start Small Habits – Don’t underestimate the power of small! It’s a collection of little steps that get the big jobs done. What daily/weekly/monthly habit(s) could you introduce to support your goal? Going to the gym for an hour 5 days a week is great, but walking 30 minutes a day may be easier to sustain – and easier to sustain means longer-term benefits.
  6. Stop Bad Habits – Is watching 3 hours of TV really helping you achieve your goal? Cutting out just a third of that will help. Set a timer when you dive into social media to ensure you don’t get lost there. Consider what habits you have now that will get in your way. Then minimize or eliminate them.
  7. Schedule It – Carve time out in your schedule. I’m talking commitment here! Commit to do what you’ve got to do. Make it non-negotiable. If you can start your day with it, that’s ideal.
  8. Buddy Up – Surround yourself with others who have the same goal. That collective energy will help all of you.
  9. Prepare for Slips – Plan ahead to prevent slips (have a list of diet-friendly places to eat, pack snacks, etc.) Always have a Plan B. If you can’t go to the gym, what can you do instead to stick to your plan?
  10. Life Happens – The slips will happen. Own it. Don’t make excuses, don’t justify it, don’t blame. Take responsibility, revisit your “why,” shake it off and get back on track.
  11. Review Your Progress – Celebrate your successes along the way and learn where you took a wrong turn. We all crave immediate feedback, so these regular reviews allow us to give that feedback to ourselves.

2017 is yours for the taking! Be Bold, Be Brave, and Live a Life By Design!!

Share in the comments section what your goal is for 2017.

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Holiday Reflection Activity

The Holiday Season has us hustling and bustling and despite all of our efforts, something will be forgotten. But once the holiday arrives, we have no choice but to carry on and make do with what we have. The beauty of this season is we have some time to reflect on our past, present, and future. While this can certainly cause some pain, it can also provide great clarity on what we have to be thankful for and the many opportunities that lie before us.

Below is an exercise you can do on your own, but if you are spending your holiday with others, this could be a really fun group activity, too.

PAST – Think of the past 12 months

  • Looking back on the past year, what’s something you are incredibly grateful for?
  • Share a valuable lesson you learned.
  • What goal did you not accomplish?
  • Share something you did that you’re proud of.
  • What’s something new you realized about yourself?
  • What goal did you accomplish?
  • Share a fond memory of the past year.
  • What word best describes the past year?

PRESENT

  • What word best describes how you feel right now?
  • On a scale of 1-10 (10 being the best) how satisfied are you with who you are as a person today?
  • What are you most grateful for right now?
  • What is most important to you right now?
  • What can you do to get the most out of today?
  • Do all the people you care about KNOW how you feel about them? Are you sure?

FUTURE – Think of the next 12 months

  • What goal do you want to accomplish in the next year?
  • What will be the most challenging aspect of achieving it?
  • Name 3 people who could help you achieve it.
  • Name one word you would like others to use to describe you one year from now.
  • What are you most looking forward to?
  • What quality about yourself do you think will be most beneficial in helping you achieve your goal(s)?
  • What do you want to spend more time doing over the next year?
  • What do you want to spend less time doing over the next year?
  • What skill do you want to acquire or strengthen over the next year?

I challenge you to write down your answers to these questions and check in periodically to see if you’re on track or not.

Reflecting like this can help you move forward. We can’t change our past, but we can change how we view it. Both your present and your future is yours to create. Make this a year of living a life by design, not by default! If you need support, take advantage of a complimentary Empowerment Session.

Merry Christmas and Happy Hanukkah!!

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The Key to Personal Development and Achieving Your Goals

It was four years ago this month that I decided to take back control of my life. I was feeling unfulfilled in my career and was dealing with the deluge of emotions that followed a hometown tragedy. I decided I didn’t want to play “victim” anymore. I knew I couldn’t control everything, but I also knew there were things I absolutely could take back control of. There was one key to this transformative empowerment: communication.  If there is an aspect of your life that you want to change, a future version of you that you seek, I encourage you to read on. Following these steps will allow you to shape your future instead of just reacting to your circumstances.

When people speak of personal development and goal achievement, they don’t often attribute it to communication. However, I assure you, little to no progress will be made without it. There are two parts to consider with communication – the communication you have with yourself, and the communication you have with others. Both are required. I’ve narrowed down the 3 most important aspects of each part.

Communication with Yourself

  • Dealing with Your Inner Critic – We have all dealt with this nasty voice in our head. Our inner critic knows just how to hit us where it hurts. There is usually just enough truth to these thoughts to make us buy the whole story, but that’s like believing every claim of an As Seen on TV product. Take the communication you receive from this naysayer with a grain of salt. Use the truthful information to your benefit and throw the rest away. Action Step: Write down what that inner critic is saying, then vet out fact from exaggeration.
  • Have an Honest Strength and Weakness Conversation with Yourself – When you are looking to improve yourself and achieve your goals, you have to be willing to take pride in, and use, your strengths. You need to leverage these for your benefit. We all have strengths, be proud of yours and don’t hide them from yourself or others. The same is true for weaknesses. We all have them. Be honest with yourself about which ones are holding you back. There’s a good chance that your ineptitude in math will NOT stop you from becoming your best self, so focus on the ones that are, instead. Action Step: Make two columns and list the strengths that can most help you achieve your goals and the weaknesses that are most likely to get in your way.
  • Articulate a Plan – In all aspects of communication, whether verbal, non-verbal, or written, the ability to articulate our message can be the difference between success and failure. Be clear in your language, purpose, and plan. Action step: When designing your plan, answer the who, what, when, where, why, and how. The greater the detail, the greater your chance of success.

Communication with Others

  • Willingness to Listen – You will learn so much more listening than you ever will talking. In order to best communicate with others, you need to understand them, their perspectives, and their beliefs. The best way to accomplish this is to listen. Once you understand these aspects of them, you can adapt your communication to ensure they understand you. Action Step: Ask questions about others first. What questions do you need answered that will help you communicate best with them?
  • State Your Needs – As clear as it seems to us, our needs are not always as obvious to others. What is common sense to us, is not always so common. We all have different perspectives and experiences, so stating clearly and succinctly what our needs are is the quickest way to get them met. Action Step: What are your needs right now, and how can you state them in a way that others will understand and be willing and able to help?
  • Be Direct and Tactful – We live in an increasingly busy world. People have many communications thrown at them every day: emails, texts, social media messages, voicemails, papers, bills, and more. We just don’t have the time to puzzle out the meaning of an obscure message. Be direct, yet tactful when communicating with others. They will appreciate both and be more willing to support you and your goals. Action Step: Think of others who can help you. How can you make a request of them in a direct, tactful way? (Make sure you are prepared to share how you can or would be willing to help them in return.)

As you can see, our personal development and goal achievement relies on our communication skills. When we communicate effectively with ourselves and with others, we are positioned for success. I have tweaked my plans and goals throughout these past four years, but I had to start somewhere. By using and improving my communication skills, I’ve been able to reach my goals and improve myself. Taking these steps will put you back in the driver’s seat of your life and ensure you are living a life by design.

Your turn! Which one of these have you been most successful at? Share in the comments section, in as much detail as you wish, the one that has been most helpful for you.

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4 Questions to Help You Design Your 2017

This time of year can cause us to focus on all the things we have to do before the year ends (which often translates into all we have to do for other people). But we are missing out on a wonderful opportunity to start thinking about what we need to do to start 2017 off right for ourselves. That’s the difference between being reactive and proactive. When it comes to life, are you playing defense or offense? Are you reacting to circumstances or making every effort to create those circumstances? This strategy can be the difference between working harder versus working smarter.

If you want to play offense in your 2017, you have to start planning NOW. Living a life by design requires you to design your life ahead of time. Of course, there will be circumstances beyond your control, but there will be many within your control, so your time is better spent planning those than worrying about what could happen. So, where do you begin? GREAT question!

Everything starts with your goals. You can’t live a life by design if you don’t know what it looks like when you’ve achieved it. Ask yourself the following questions for 2017:

  • Who Do I Want to Be? – What adjectives would you like others to use to describe you in 2017?
  • What Do I Want to Accomplish? – Is every year the same old, same old? You want to lose weight, find a life partner, travel, or pay off your debt… Let’s make this year the one when you actually get it done!
  • What’s Standing in My Way? – We are generally pretty aware of the obstacles that are in our path to success. We are also experienced and clever enough to know how to get around them. Sometimes it’s other people who hold us back, and other times we are our own worst enemy. Whether it’s external or internal, isn’t 2017 the PERFECT year to change this?
  • How Can I Use My Strengths and Minimize My Weaknesses? – The successes we accumulate are often a result of properly using our strengths while minimizing the impact of our weaknesses. How can you use this strategy to accomplish your goals for 2017?

If you give serious thought to these questions, you will realize – You have the answers. You just need to allow yourself a little time to reflect and consider the version of you, you’d like to be in 2017. Being the architect of your life isn’t easy but it’s absolutely doable! When you take control and plan for your future, you will find that you are no longer at the mercy of your circumstances.

Now it’s your turn. Which of those four questions: who you want to be, what do you want to accomplish, what’s in your way, and how to use your strengths and weaknesses, most resonate with you? Share your thoughts in the comments section.

That being said, there is no better investment than the one you make in yourself. Whether that investment is in the form of attention, time, or money. When you put these values on the line, you are NOT going to let yourself down. In this spirit, I have some AWESOME offers for you!

  • FREE ebook by Michael Hyatt – This ebook features habits that some of your favorite and most successful people have discovered. People like Tony Robbins, Marie Forleo, Amy Porterfield, John Acuff and MORE share their secrets to success. Success leaves clues…I want to let you in on them. Download the Free Ebook!

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  • Plan Ahead Badass Rates – I think if you’re badass enough to commit your attention, time, and money to living a life by design in 2017, you should get some pretty impressive perks. Check out my Special End-of-Year package rates for 2017 (up to 50% off)!!
    1. 50% Off 10 Sessions in 2017 – This package is for the Serious Goal Setter who wants to commit to longer-term support to ensure any obstacles that come up along the way are demolished!
    2. 40% off 6 Sessions in 2017 – This half-year package is perfect for the on-the-go goal setter who likes to fast track their goals and wants to just get on the right track.
    3. 30% off 3 Sessions in 2017 – This package is perfect for the person who wants to dip their toe in and get a feel for goal setting or the person who just needs a little cushion, and the support that comes along with the empowerment sessions.

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