Are Your Goals TOO Specific?

My long-time readers know I love all things goal-oriented. But sometimes too much of a “good thing,” is not so good after all. Goals are important. We have to know what we’re striving for. However, we have to be careful that we don’t box ourselves in. If we have too much criteria in our goals, we may be setting ourselves up for disappointment.

One of the most important aspects of goal setting is having a compelling, emotional, heartfelt reason behind every goal. You must know why that goal is important to you. This step is often skipped and attention is given to other details. This is a problem because when we get so mired in the details without the emotional attachment, we start trying to control things that, quite possibly, aren’t helping us to achieve our goal and instead turn us into hamsters on a wheel.

Here’s an example: Laura wants to be in a loving, romantic relationship. She’s tired of being alone and lonely. She’s on the search for a husband who is physically fit, financially well off, likes to vacation in warm places, and enjoys reading and live music. None of that is unreasonable, right? Here’s the problem. At its essence, Laura’s goal is to be in a loving, romantic relationship. However, she has lost sight of this and instead has focused her attention on details that may not get her to her goal. Her criteria is so narrow, she may be missing out on the love of her life because he’s missing some of the qualities she’s looking for. We all have non-negotiables, and I’m not recommending we change that, but it’s important to stay focused on what’s really important.

Whether your goal is to get healthier, become more financially secure, climb the corporate ladder, or any other number of possibilities, it’s important to not get overly tangled in the “how.” Sometimes achieving our goals is not a straight and direct path. In fact, it usually isn’t. Be willing to ride some of the twists and turns that could ultimately lead you to your goal.

I know countless leaders who thought they knew what path they wanted to take, but ended up being offered other opportunities that they reluctantly accepted, only to later discover was the path that led them to their (often unknown at the time) dream job. I recently read a story about a college dropout who had no idea what to do with his life. Someone observed him working well with a group of challenged individuals and suggested that might be a great career path for him to consider.  He did, and now ten years on the job, he has climbed the ranks and loves what he does. He admits he never would have seen himself in that role if he wasn’t willing to explore and try new things.

So, no matter what your goal is, be open to the many ways you could achieve it. Life is full of surprises and we miss out on them when we are overly focused on trying to control every minute detail.

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Comments

  1. I absolutely love this April. You made some really good points! I tend to believe that what will be, will be, but really what will be sometimes needs a push. I think that’s why some of us are here to make what is meant to be, be. The goals that we start setting at often a young age, I believe are meant to be set. It’s just that often like you said there are reasons that keep us from making them happen. I totally agree with you! Thank you for sharing that info. with others. 🙂 <3

    • Angela, you’re right about sometimes needing that push. I’m reading the “5 Second Rule” by Mel Robbins right now, and that’s the exact philosophy. If we give ourselves more than 5 seconds, we can usually talk ourselves out of anything, but taking the leap and acting on our goals can change EVERYTHING! Thanks for commenting, I’m so glad you enjoyed the post!!

  2. Absolutely love this April. Attention to detail is a good thing, but it is important to not forget why we set that goal in the first place. The road to Rome does not have to be straight. Always pursue our passion and open up to new opportunities can lead us to achieve amazing things.

  3. Great advice! It’s really important to have a meaningful reason behind a goal. Your passion will fuel you and help you achieve what you have in mind.

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